There comes a point in many romantic relationships when you can tell that something’s solidifying. Perhaps the occasional date has become spending several days a week in each other’s company, and you’re still counting down the hours until you’ll see them again.
Recognising that you’re ready to get serious is exciting but it’s okay to also be worried about messing things up. Here are a few useful steps to take to reach that next level.
Assessing relationship readiness
It’s worth taking a few moments to look inward and confirm to yourself that you’re in a good place emotionally to invest in a serious relationship. Ask yourself:
- Are you still dwelling on a previous relationship?
- Are you willing and able to open up to somebody about your feelings, dreams and anxieties?
- Do you know what you want from a serious relationship?
Techniques like meditation and journaling can be useful in clarifying your thoughts to yourself so that you get a better idea of whether you can be a good partner right now.
Effective communication strategies
It’s important to focus on communication early on in a relationship because poor communication is such a big factor in so many break-ups. Though it can be tempting to say whatever it feels like your partner wants you to say during this whirlwind period, make sure to be open and honest about how you feel and encourage them to do the same.
When talking about serious subjects with your partner, make sure to be attentive and give each other space to answer without interrupting. Keep your phones out of sight so you can both be present and engaged. If you do encounter trouble on this front, consider reaching out to a couples therapist to help you establish stronger grounds for communication – it’s worth it!
Prioritising sexual health and well-being
If sex is or is becoming a part of your relationship, it’s crucial to be able to talk about it frankly and seriously. Both of you should be informed on the subject of sexual health.
Partners who are establishing a monogamous relationship should discuss and undergo STI screenings, like taking a chlamydia test, to ensure mutual comfort and well-being. It’s easy to find home testing kits for convenience and privacy, and it’s an important part of getting your relationship off on the right foot.
Navigating key milestones
Talk to each other about the moments in a relationship that are important to you. Understand where you both stand on things like meeting each other’s families, discussing finances and making plans for the future – you might feel differently, and that’s okay! These discussions will make both of you better able to respond to each other’s needs and stay on the same page when navigating your futures together.
Maintaining individuality and mutual interests
You’re likely going to feel very wrapped up in your partner at this stage of your relationship – but don’t lose sight of the fact that you’re your own person. If your partner shares some of your hobbies and interests, that’s great – but make time for some that are just for you so you can bring your most fulfilled self to the relationship. Hobbies have been shown to improve our well-being so be sure to give yourself opportunities to live a life that isn’t completely defined by one person.
